I love a list.  However, being a pragmatist, I tend to shy away from wishful-thinking type lists … like the bucket list.

Picture 53For a writer, I’m not much on the dreamy mind.  I don’t spend a lot of time hoping something goes well or not, or wishing things were different, or wondering “what if” or “if only.”  Even when I was little, I wanted a story that seemed “real.”  I wanted to be Laura Ingalls and live with Ma and Pa and some sisters in LITTLE HOUSE ON THE PRAIRIE, but I did not, under any circumstances, want to follow Alice down the rabbit hole or escape with THE LION, THE WITCH, AND THE WARDROBE.  Brace yourselves:  I’ve never seen “Star Wars.”  But today one of my favorite writers and friends, the super-smart and lovely Averil Dean, posted the bucket list question on her blog and I answered.  And I was surprised by a few of my own answers.  Here’s what was on my Bucket List as of 3 pm on an Easter Sunday:

1. Live in a house in the country, with a front porch swing, close to my children.

2. Write a book that changes the way we think about, and talk about, stepfamilies.

3. Go on safari.

4. Meet my German relatives, and find out who my family was in the early 20th century.

5. Spend a year traveling the U.S. in an RV, with our dogs.

6. Learn how to live without regret or denial.

I have no idea where the German-relatives-answer came from.  Had never thought about the regret/denial thing.  But there they are.  In ink.


What’s the most surprising thing on your (bucket) list?